A few years ago my Trainer and Mentor, Nancy Forrester (NeftTI.com), shared an idea with me that I just loved and never forgot. I kept this idea close and hoped that when the time came for my older daughter to move away to attend university that she would be game for the idea. Well, she liked the idea too!
We went into the store with smiles on our faces. It was fun to look at all the possible choices. As store helpers came to make sure we were looked after we shared with them what our plan was, that put a smile on their faces too. We both chose an animal we felt somehow represented us. I gravitated to the bunny and my daughter to a brown bear. We lined up with the rest of the kids to get our stuffed animals filled. We chose our hearts and performed the little heart ritual which I enjoyed as it was all good energy and intentions going into the heart. Then we added custom scents – I picked lavender because I love essential oils, my daughter chose sugar cookie because she loves to bake. Next was our favourite part – picking out the clothes! Then we sat down to create the certificates for our animals. We used our names for our stuffed animals, I name mine Momma Bunny. We both found the process fun! Now the next step was to get them home and make sure to take a picture of the two of the animals together. Then we gave each other the stuffed animal we made.
My daughters bear has stayed home with me and Momma Bunny went with my daughter to her dorm room. Even when we are not with each other, there is a little part of us, a little love if it’s ever needed as we navigate this new chapter together but apart. My wish is for this idea to be shared with as many parents as possible so if they love the idea too, they can keep it close and enjoy the process of creating a little more love and connection with their child when it’s time for their child to start their next chapter!
Lately I’ve been enjoying some new normals in my professional life. It’s a great feeling when you realize and appreciate that which was once out of your comfort zone now feels easy, a no brainer, a natural part of your life. For those who are highly sensitive, like myself, and want to create some change it can require many smaller steps rather than a few big ones and done. Here’s what I do:
- I prefer to break things down into small manageable chunks. Even though the steps are smaller I can still feel resistance or stressed with regards to a task. That may look like me feeling confused or fearful, having negative thoughts, unable to focus, procrastinating, my body aching, or perhaps its external circumstances I’m allowing to get in the way. I use EFT/Tapping to interrupt my stress response and address whatever is coming up for me at the time either by myself or with my practitioner.
- As I move through my steps and have positive experiences and outcomes I have learned to harness this positive energy. I intentionally use it to propel myself forward into another step on my list like saying yes to an opportunity that feels uncomfortable for me. What If I have an experience that didn’t go so well from one of my steps? I use my EFT/Tapping to interrupt my stress response and address what’s coming up for me about it too so I don’t stay stuck there and lose momentum.
- I have found that I work best moving through my steps when I am accountable to someone else so I always have an accountability buddy that I report to.
How do we avoid burnout when we are creating change that feels uncomfortable? The steps above along with other supportive habits through the process like meditation, nutrition, hydration, exercise, and human connection are all pieces of a foundation that is built to not only reach the change/goal/big step, but also to be able to sustain the change in a healthy way.
So many of us can be challenged with speaking our own truth. Many of us may have learned that doing so can get us into trouble with others. Sometimes we are so concerned about what others think that we will avoid it at all cost.
There are many thoughts and feelings as to why we are not speaking our truth. We may not feel safe to do it, we don’t want to upset the other person, we want to avoid conflict, we want to be able to go about our ways and still have everyone like us, we don’t want to be judged, we want to feel accepted, or we may feel responsible for keeping the peace. We may have a great need to explain ourselves and give lots of detail, or we may avoid others and the conversation or situation all together. We may even end up resenting others, blaming them thinking it’s their fault that we can’t speak our truth. The whole thing can be exhausting. When we do this we give our power away. Why are other people’s thoughts and feelings more important than our own? By not speaking our own truth we end up hurting ourselves. We pay a price that will worsen over time. That price is customized to the individual.
The first step is becoming aware of how not speaking our truth does not serve us, and knowing the price we are paying. It’s a step by step process of gathering experience and working on what comes up for us during the steps. If you are feeling challenged and wish to have more freedom to speak your truth, please feel free to drop me a line at email@example.com.
The holiday break feels like a long time ago now. Reflecting back, there were days of where I hung out with my family and the only ‘to do’s’ (if I could call them that) where to enjoy some food, pick a movie to watch, flip through a magazine and just go with the flow of the day. Was I concerned about what I was not getting done at the time? NOPE, this was an intentional gift to myself. I know I did what was best for me as I was looking forward to getting back into my personal & business routines, and my kids personal & school routines, and doing so with excitement!
Years ago I decided to stop making resolutions. At the time I didn’t really understand why I wouldn’t follow through with them. I just knew that starting the first month off in the New Year not sticking to my resolutions felt crappy. What became clear to me was I’m not really into doing things just because everyone else is. I do things if / when they are right for me, not because of the calendar or someone else’s agenda. I also know that when I really want to do something I will make it happen. The energy is there, the ability to ‘find the time’ happens, and the focus is immense. I now prefer to create my vision, set my intentions, and work through whatever resistance comes up for me.
2016 was a year spent creating a stronger foundation, expanding my skills, working with my manifesting abilities, and stepping into a new level of acceptance of myself. Welcome 2017! It’s time to shine in a way that comes most naturally, to step beyond newly acquired comfort zones, and come from an even greater place of service. Cheers to a magnificent year ahead!
In my late twenties I remember feeling that I could only do 2 of 3 things well at one time and I had 3 categories – health, career, and family. I was in shape and my career was great but the family stuff not so much. Or I was doing well with my career and family responsibilities but neglecting my health and wellbeing. Just the thought of having it all balanced out amongst the three exhausted and overwhelmed me. Many years later I discovered there were more areas of life than just 3. Wait, WHAT?! I can’t seem to manage 3 well, there’s more?
There are multiple categories of life to look at – Relationships, Health & Wellbeing, Wealth, Contributions, Business / Career, and Spirituality. My overwhelm was from thinking that I had to have them all balanced perfectly all the time. I now know that it’s not about perfection. I do not need each category to be balanced exactly, nor does each one have to be rated a 10 out of 10.
The point is I get to choose what my categories of life look like. I decide what areas to make priority, where I will put in more time and energy, and what areas will be lower down on the scale. Really it’s about what works for the individual. Raising a family and going through the different stages – babies, school age, teenage, and adult years will all have an impact on my categories. Things will rise up in life and it’s ok if I divert some energy and attention from another area when it’s needed and then I can recalibrate when things calm down. Being able to accept that the balance of my life is not set in stone and never needs to be ‘perfect’ definitely helps me have more peace in my life!